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Become boss to your Anger.

Dear Son,

I know you’re still learning. Your still figuring out how this life thing works and your gonna do great at it, this I know. However, hear me when I say; your anger is not your friend but it is one of the many antagonist that live to dismantle you and disconnect you from your destiny.

You’re only 3 years old and believe me, I understand that this is a learning experience for you and that’s why these letters are meant for you when you become of age and can understand. A temper tantrum at 3 years old is completely warranted and expected; nevertheless, a temper tantrum in your adolescent or adult years can be detrimental to your life and I want nothing but the best for you my son.

Anger should be an indicator, not a trigger. You decide what you allow anger to do for you, it can either serve as a catalyst that forces you to resolve the issue at hand. Should you let it enslave you, then a slave you shall be and a puppet controlled by it.

Many young men lose there lives daily in the name of anger. Although losing your life is an extreme case, it goes to show how this one characteristic; unmanaged, can lead to your demise. Shall you desire to live and live long be master to your anger.

About 62% of men in prison were put there due to violent crimes, so it can be assumed that about 62% of the men in prison could not control there anger. There are many different reasons why that may be but the point is anger can lead you to a cavernous, stone walled prison cell where time laughs in your face all because you failed to whip anger into shape. You have everything in you to conquer anger my son.

Can Anger ever be healthy?

Yes, anger does have benefits. It is only a benefit when you allow it to be an indicator and not a trigger.

When anger is a trigger: lets say we have a friend, lets call this friend Michael. Michael is in a super market shopping and he gets in line. A young man skips him in line and at this point they began having a pretty heated verbal exchange with one another. Michael is so irate that he pulls out a knife and stabs the young man. A hour later Michael is in the back of the cop car on the way to get booked at the county jail. Anger has become his trigger.

When Anger is a indicator: Had Michael allowed anger to be an indicator that story would have ended in a much different way. What does it look like to allow anger to be an indicator? It means recognizing that hey the events that are taking place at this very moment indicate to me that there is a problem present so how do I solve this problem without letting anger dictate my actions for me. As you can see, this takes a skill because to be able to slow your mind down and think about what is happening in a moment of heightened emotion can be tough and most people absolutely suck at it and consequently succumb to the pull of anger.

This is where you’re different. You understand that anger is an opponent and you have the upper hand because you already know its intentions before it strikes. its your job to always stay one step ahead. This is a game of chess. Know your SOP (Standard Operational procedure).

What is the process you take every time you become angry?

JUST SLOW IT DOWN…. We lose when we function on heightened emotions. This is not only for the emotion of anger, this applies to all the emotions.

Get overly sad, overly afraid, overly prideful, overly excited, etc. the list goes on - you can make a decision that you would have otherwise not made had you been in your right mind.

Next time you get angry, slow it down, think and then take action.

Key Takeaways:

• Understand that anger can serve you 1 of 2 ways. It can either serve as a catalyst that forces you to resolve the issue at hand or it will serve as your master dictating your actions. - Good news is you get to decide.

• Slow it down! Practice delayed action when in the midst of heightened emotion. Calm down, think, and then decide what to do. NEVER make a rash decision in the heat of anger.

It wouldn’t be right if, as you father I didn’t direct you to the word of our creator and true Father, God. This is what God has to say about anger.

Refer back to these scriptures in times where you need to do some brushing up on your anger.

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